by Kate Fitch

Some of our readers and writers, myself included, deal with addictions. Whether that’s addiction to drugs (alcohol included), sex, food, self-harm, or anything else under the sun, this post applies. I’m going to share a technique that I use when I’m struggling with urges to engage in addictive behaviors. It’s very simple, and it comes down to making two lists.

The first list is what my addiction wants.

  • Alcohol
  • To feel a buzz
  • To temporarily squash negative thoughts

The second list is what I want.

  • Life
  • Health
  • To feel love, joy, happiness, wonder, and excitement
  • To learn how to combat negative thoughts on my own
  • To finish school
  • To make a difference in the world around me
  • To be trustworthy
  • To remember each day and learn from it
  • To live independently
  • To retire with adequate savings
  • To finish life with a couple library’s worth of books under my belt
  • To be present and engaged in my life

Now, take a good look at those lists. Which one is more deserving of my time, energy, and money? I think it’s the second.

What I Want Vs. What It Wants.